Tuesday, March 11, 2008Y
2:56 AM
Do Parents Over-control Their Child Nowadays?Yes, I believe that parents nowadays do over-control their child. In my opinion, they are abusing the present technology by getting their child to send a Short Message Service (SMS) them every now and then to “report” his/her movements. Also, parents nowadays are overly worried that their children will get kidnapped or robbed, which is never a worry in the past. However, some parents are not like that. Instead, they never control their children and hence, some will go astray.
Firstly, with improving technology, parents can now force their children to call them every hour to “report” where they are. For some children, it is a real torture to get their parents’ consent to go out with their friends. Even after they got their parents’ consent, they have to contact their parents every now and then to ease their parents’ worry. Now, there is a new technology called 3G. It works like a web cam, so both parties can see each other’s faces. With this new tool, parents can now be sure of their child’s movements. A child can easily fool their parents with SMS, but with 3G, it’s almost fool proof. However, such strict measures can make a child rebel.
Secondly, with the increasing crime rate and with the crimes becoming more and more sadistic, parents no longer feel safe about letting their child go out till late at night. For some parents, they will go to the bus stop to fetch their children, not letting them walk home themselves. Yes, this is understandable for those who stays near remote places. However it seems like everyone’s doing it. In the past, some children do not even need to ask their parents if they can go out with their friends.
However, there are some parents who does not care about their children. Some because they feel their children are hopeless and nothing they say or do will change their mind. Some because they do not have the time to control them. Instead, they have to work all day and night just to earn enough to feed their family. These children may do badly in school and be lead astray by others. I believe everyone seen their fair share of such children. They do not care about school nor about their health.
In conclusion, I believe that control of a child is necessary but it must not be too strict nor too lenient. Controlling a child is like flying a kite. Pull it too tightly and the string will break, and u may never see your kite again. But let the string slack and the kite will fly low and gradually fall to the ground. Communication is the key to a good parent-child relationship. The parent needs to know what the child wants and vice versa. I believe that no relationship is hopeless and if both parties put their heart and soul in it, they will definitely succeed.